I really love stories. And they are
way more powerful than we realise. Our children’s ability to talk about the
past and future is linked to success in school, learning to read & write,
and to social success. And we all love a good story, right?
Last night I read The Little Red Hen to my four year old
daughter for the first time. I picked it because I remember loving it as child
myself & it really is a great story for imparting values around work ethic &
consequences. Stories have many purposes: to entertain, to teach, to transmit
values, to show ourselves in a good light. You don’t have to confine yourself
to story books either. Here are some ideas for weaving stories into the fabric
of your everyday life:
#1 Tell your
children stories from when you were little.
They really love this! Telling your
own stories is such a wonderful way of connecting with your children and
showing them your understanding of the challenges of childhood. It’s such a
relief to hear it happened to someone else too- no matter what age you are!
On a train one day, I overheard a
mother tell her son a story of something embarrassing that happened to her as a
child- she was at the swimming pool from school & needed to go to the
toilet but was too shy to tell the teacher, so she went to the toilet in the pool and the
whole place had to be evacuated! I loved her for sharing this publicly and it
worked a treat to diffuse her son’s upset when the picture he was colouring in
did not go his way. You should have seen the attention he paid her- he was
hooked on every word. Don't panic, your stories don’t have to be this dramatic-
see # 4 below.
#2 Write a
letter
We live about 3 hours away from my
parents by car & they aren’t online. I feel sad about the impact the
distance has on their relationship with my little girl. One day, I decided to
write to my father & ask him to send her stories from when he was a child.
I also put in a stamped addressed envelope to make it even easier. A few days
later, a letter arrived for her with a story called Grandad Bernard’s Trip to
Tipp to Sell the Geese – it was so vivid and lovely and a precious keepsake for
her.
#3 Make it
up as you go along…
I came across a lovely idea in a
Donna Leon detective novel recently where at dinner time, one of the family
threw out a storyline & the others took it in turn to run with it. You
could have great fun with this especially for older children & have wild
imaginings over dinner.
Here’s an example from The Golden Egg
by Donna Leon: …. Chiara set her water
glass down with a thump & said, ‘They all lived happily ever after’.
‘Clorinda’s eyes met Giuseppe’s, & together they gazed happily down at the
baby’, Paola said immediately in a voice she pumped full of emotion. I love the way Chiara begins the story with
what we would think of as an ending. You’ll have to read the book to find out
where they take the story- it’s worth finding out!
#4 It’s not about
what you get, it’s about what you give
‘So, how was
school today?’ Fine. What happened? Not much/nothing.’ Sound familiar? Try
this. To get a story, you need to tell a story. So instead of asking questions
tell your own story first & leave the door open for them to participate or
share if they want. So, as I said above in #3, your story doesn’t have to have major
drama. It just needs to relate an event
that stood out because it was reportable; something unusual that happened.
For example, one day when my little
girl was two & a half, I went to the library on my way home from work &
witnessed an incident where a boy called Bernard threw an egg at the inside of
the library door. I told her about it when I came home. Well, I must have told
that story 20 times over the following weeks. Every now & again, for many
months, she’d say ‘Tell me about Bernard
and the egg’. So a little really can go a long way!
So how can you
weave more stories into your life? What happened to you today that you could
tell your children to get a conversation going?
If you would like to learn more about Mary Pat's work visit: www.talknua.com
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Dr. Mary-Pat O Malley-Keighran is a lecturer, author, researcher, speech &
language therapist, and lover of all things to do with speech, language, and
communication. She has over 20 years’ experience of working with families &
14 years of teaching speech & language students.
This post was written by our guest blogger Mary Pat O'Malley, speech and language therapist, lecturer and author.
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